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How is Skip designed to be safer than traditional dating apps?

Skip is designed to create a safer dating experience by combining multiple safety features across the full dating process, before, during, and after the date, instead of relying on just one feature.

Background checks can help make first dates safer by adding an extra screening step before meeting. Skip uses SSN verification, which helps reduce fraud risk compared with name-only screening.
- Require a match to pass a background check* before the first date.
- Screening may include, where available, sex offender registries, global watchlists, and national records.
- Results are generally valid for 12 months, so there is no need to repeat for every date.

Deal breakers help make first dates safer by setting expectations early, filtering out bad fits, and making red flags easier to recognize.
- Set Expectations Early: Use deal breakers to communicate what matters before the date, so you do not have to bring up important boundaries for the first time in an awkward or uncomfortable in-person moment.
- Filter Out Bad Fits Early: On Skip, matches must pass your deal breakers at 100% in order to propose a date, helping filter out people who do not meet your standards before a first date.
- Spot Red Flags: Setting clear boundary deal breakers upfront makes it easier to recognize when someone intentionally crosses a line, because your boundaries were already clearly communicated.

Date reviews can help make first dates safer by adding accountability after the date. Users can leave private feedback to help surface red flags and support a safer community.
- Private feedback: Users can leave anonymous ratings and reviews after each date to help surface positive or concerning behavior.
- Date tracking: Skip logs who, where, and when a date occurs, helping connect reviews to real dates and add accountability.
- Trust signals: Positive post-date compliments can appear on a profile and help provide added context for future users considering whether to like their profile.
- Removing Unsafe Users: Reviews help flag users who violate safety standards, making it easier for Skip to remove unsafe users.

Profile verification helps make dating safer by helping confirm the person in the photos is the same person you would meet on the date.
- Take a guided selfie.

- We verify authenticity to help prevent fakes.
- Earn a blue checkmark once confirmed.

Date Cards help turn an offline connection into a safer first date.
- Share a Date Card: If you see someone in person and are interested in getting to know them, hand them a Date Card instead of sharing your number. This keeps your personal contact info private until you feel safe sharing it.
- Built-In Safety: Date Cards help turn an in-person connection into a safer first date by guiding the other person through your required safety and compatibility steps on Skip, like passing your background check and deal breakers, before you agree to go on a date.

No AI Chat Catfishing
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Skip helps make dating safer by preventing AI chat catfishing through completely removing in-app chat, so bots and scammers cannot hide behind fake conversations.
- Without chat, scammers have fewer ways to ask for money, stay anonymous, or manipulate users remotely. Most will not agree to an in-person date, because it exposes their identity and makes scams much harder to pull off.

How do Skip background checks work?

You can choose to require a background check before your match can propose a date, so anyone you go on a first date with through Skip has already passed a background check before the first date happens. This added screening step helps create a safer dating experience.

Skip’s background check flow includes SSN verification and an ID review step, which helps reduce fraud risk compared with name-only screening. The ID review requires a government-issued ID, such as a driver’s license or passport, and helps confirm that the background check submission matches the user’s submitted information, including their name, profile photos, and profile verification selfie or live photo. This extra step helps ensure the person who matched with you is the same person completing the check, reducing the risk of impersonation or using someone else’s information. 

Screening may include, where available:
- Sex offender registry search: Searches registries from all 50 states, Washington DC, and US territories.
- Global watchlist search: Searches a comprehensive network of domestic and international government watchlists for criminal history.
- National criminal search: Searches county records that query up to 900 million public records.

Example flow: 
1. Turn on the background check requirement 
2. Find someone you like on the app, or hand out a Skip Date Card in person
3. They like your profile back and you match
4. They must pass your deal breakers at 100%
5. They complete and pass a background check*
6. They propose a date
7. You confirm a time and location or suggest a new one
8. Go on the date
9. Leave anonymous reviews

This timing is intentional. Skip does not require people to complete or pay for a background check upfront before there is mutual interest and compatibility. A match first passes your deal breakers, then completes the background check before moving forward toward a date.

Most background checks are completed in about 24 hours, but some can take longer. In some cases, the process may take 3 to 5 business days depending on record availability, review needs, or whether additional information is required.

Background checks help reduce risk, but they do not verify identity and do not guarantee safety, future behavior, or that no records exist everywhere.

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How do background checks help make first dates safer?

On Skip, background checks can help make first dates safer by adding an extra screening step before someone moves toward an in-person date. They help reduce risk before meeting and work alongside Skip’s other safety features, like deal breakers, profile verification, and date reviews.

Does passing a background check guarantee someone is safe?

No. Background checks help reduce risk, but no background check, badge, or app feature can guarantee safety or future behavior. Even if someone passes a background check, behavior still matters. If someone pressures you, ignores your boundaries, or makes you feel uncomfortable, take that seriously.

What happens if I do not pass a background check?

If you do not pass a background check, your account will be disabled for 12 months. After that period, you may be able to take another background check and try again. This is part of how Skip works to help keep the community safer and reduce risk before people meet in person.

If you believe there is an error in the screening result, you should follow the dispute or support steps provided during the background check process.

How do deal breakers work?

You can choose to require compatibility and boundary deal breakers before your match can propose a date. That means anyone you go on a first date with through Skip has already passed your required deal breakers before the date happens. This added screening step helps support a safer and more compatible dating experience.

A typical flow looks like this:

1. Set custom deal breakers 
2. Find someone you like on the app, or hand out a Skip Date Card in person
3. They like your profile back and you match
4. They must pass your deal breakers at 100%
5. They complete and pass a background check*
6. They propose a date
7. You confirm a time and location or suggest a new one
8. Go on the date
9. Leave anonymous reviews

This timing is intentional. Skip does not allow someone to move toward a date before there is a match and they have passed your required deal breakers. This helps communicate expectations early, filter out bad fits, and support safer first dates.

What happens if your match does not pass your deal breakers?

If your match does not pass your required deal breakers at 100 percent, they will not be able to propose a date. Their match status will update to Incompatible. This helps filter out people who do not meet your standards before a first date happens.

Who can require deal breakers?

Who can require deal breakers depends on the match type and the user’s selected experience. 

- In women-seeking-men matches, women can require men to pass their deal breakers before they can propose a date.
- In all other match types (including same-gender), the person who chose the ‘screen others’ experience can require deal breakers.

What should I do if I feel unsafe or experience an emergency during a date?

If you are in immediate danger or experiencing an emergency, contact local emergency services right away.

If something feels off, trust your instincts. You do not owe anyone more time, more information, or another chance just because they say they did not mean it. If you feel uncomfortable, leave. If someone behaves in a way that feels unsafe or inappropriate, report them through Skip.

How Date Reviews Help Make First Dates Safer?

On Skip, date reviews can help make first dates safer by adding accountability after the date. Users can leave private feedback after each date, helping surface red flags, support a safer community, and make it easier for Skip to identify and remove unsafe behavior.

Not every safety concern appears on a profile or during a background check. Some issues, such as pressure, ignored boundaries, disrespect, or manipulative behavior, may only become clear during or after a real date.

Skip connects reviews to actual in-person dates, including who, where, and when the date happened. That gives Skip stronger context when reviewing reports or safety concerns. This post-date accountability can help:

- surface patterns that pre-date screening might miss
- encourage more respectful behavior by knowing feedback will be given after the date
- support a safer community by making it easier to identify and remove unsafe users

Date reviews can be especially useful when combined with Skip’s boundary deal breakers. If someone passed your clearly stated boundaries but later ignored them or tried to push past them on the date, that information helps give Skip better context when responding to reports or safety concerns.

How do Skip date cards work?

If you see someone in person and are interested in getting to know them, you can hand them a physical Skip Date Card instead of immediately sharing your number or asking for theirs. Whether it is someone you see at the gym, a coffee shop, a bar, or somewhere else in everyday life, the date card directs them to your Skip profile, where they can learn more about you and complete your required safety and compatibility steps before they can propose a date. This helps keep your personal contact information private, so you can decide if, when, or whether to share it.

A typical flow looks like this:

1. You see someone in person and hand them a Skip Date Card.
2. They visit your Skip profile and like your profile.
3. You are notified, review their profile, and like them back to create a match.
4. They pass your deal breakers at 100 percent
5. They complete and pass a background check
6. They propose a date
7. You confirm a time and location or suggest a new one
8. Go on the date
9. Leave anonymous reviews

Skip Date Cards can help empower you to take your in-person dating life into your own hands by bringing more structure and safety into the process. They work anywhere in the USA, so you are not limited to only using them in cities where Skip already has a larger online presence.

How do Date Cards work with Skip’s safety features?

Skip Date Cards are designed to bring Skip’s safety tools into offline connections, so the same safety steps can still apply before a first date. That can include:

- Deal breakers, which help communicate boundaries and filter out people who do not pass your standards before a first date

- Background checks, which can help reduce risk by adding an extra screening step before someone moves toward an in-person date. 

- Profile verification, which helps confirm the person using the profile appears to match the profile photos

- Date reviews, which add accountability after the date and help Skip identify unsafe behavior over time

What does the background check badge mean?

A background check badge means the user completed a Skip background check through our partner, Checkr, and their result was approved based on the screening sources used for that check, where available. Skip’s background check flow includes SSN verification and an ID review step, which helps reduce fraud risk compared with name-only screening. A background check badge helps reduce risk, but it does not guarantee safety, identity, future behavior, or that no records exist everywhere. Users should still use caution and good judgment when meeting anyone.

What is the difference between a background check green badge and a profile verification blue check badge?

A blue check badge means the user passed Skip’s profile verification, which asks users to take a guided selfie to help confirm the person using the profile appears to match the profile photos. A background check badge means the user completed a Skip background check and received a passed status based on the screening sources used for that check, where available. These badges mean different things. Profile verification helps support authenticity. A background check adds an extra screening step. Neither badge guarantees safety.

Does Skip review the ID of the person submitting a background check?

Yes. Skip’s background check flow includes an ID review step that requires a government-issued ID (such as a driver’s license or passport). This review helps confirm that the background check submission matches the user’s submitted information, including their name, profile photos, and profile verification selfie/live photo, helping reduce the risk of someone submitting another person’s information. This ID review helps reduce fraud risk, but it does not guarantee identity or safety.

Who can require a background check before someone can propose a date?

Who can require a background check depends on match type and the user’s selected experience.

- In women-seeking-men matches, women can require men to complete a background check before proposing a date.

- In all other match types (including same-gender), the person who chose the ‘screen others’ experience can require the background check.

- Anyone can also choose to complete a background check voluntarily from Settings.

Can I require both deal breakers and a background check be passed before someone can propose a date?

Yes. If your settings and match type support deal breaker and background check requirements, your match will need to pass your deal breakers and complete a background check before they can propose a date. This can help you communicate boundaries early, filter out bad fits before meeting, and add an extra screening step before someone moves toward an in-person date.

Who can require background checks and deal breakers depends on the match type and the user’s selected experience. In women seeking men matches, women can require men to pass their deal breakers and complete a background check before they can propose or confirm a date. In other match types, the ability to require deal breakers and a background check is available only to the person who selected the “screen others” experience.

Do I have to complete a background check before I can like someone or get a match?

No. On Skip, you do not have to complete or pay for a background check upfront. You can sign up, create a profile, like profiles, get a match, and pass your match’s deal breakers first, so you know there is mutual interest and compatibility before deciding whether to complete a background check. If your match requires a background check, it happens after passing their deal breakers and before moving forward with the date.

What happens if my match requires a background check and I have not completed one yet?

No problem. If your match requires a background check and you have not completed one yet, Skip will prompt you to complete a background check after you pass their deal breakers, and before moving forward with the date proposal.

When in the flow does the background check happen?

If your match requires a background check, you will be required to pass a background check after you have passed your match’s deal breakers, and before moving forward with the date. This helps you decide whether to complete the background check after there is mutual interest and compatibility.

Example flow: 
1. Turn on the background check requirement 
2. Find someone you like on the app, or hand out a Skip Date Card in person
3. They like your profile back and you match
4. They must pass your deal breakers at 100%
5. They complete and pass a background check*
6. They propose a date
7. You confirm a time and location or suggest a new one
8. Go on the date
9. Leave anonymous reviews

How do deal breakers help make first dates safer?

On Skip, deal breakers can help with both compatibility and safety. Compatibility deal breakers help filter for fit. Boundary deal breakers can make first dates safer by helping you communicate boundaries clearly, set expectations early, and filter out people who do not pass your standards before a first date ever happens, because matches must pass your deal breakers at 100 percent before they can propose a date.

Boundary deal breakers can also make it easier to recognize a red flag if someone later crosses a line on a date, because your boundaries were already clearly communicated beforehand.

Can deal breakers help communicate boundaries before the date?

Yes. Boundary deal breakers can help you communicate important boundaries before meeting in person, which can reduce ambiguity, avoid awkward or pressured in-person moments, and make red flags easier to recognize if someone later pushes past what was already made clear.

Has anyone had success on Skip?

Yes. Skip has already helped people go from first dates to real relationships, including marriage. Users often say Skip feels more like a matchmaking service than a dating app, and that Skip Date Cards helped them feel safer asking someone out.

Why is it helpful to set boundary deal breakers before the first date?

Many people do not talk about boundaries until they are already on a date, if they talk about them at all. By then, bringing up important questions can feel harder and more awkward, especially in person when you are still getting to know someone and may feel pressure to keep things comfortable.

Boundary deal breakers help move those conversations earlier. Instead of having to bring up certain boundaries for the first time on a date, you can communicate them beforehand through Skip. That can help reduce awkwardness, reduce ambiguity, and lower the chance of ending up in an uncomfortable or unsafe situation.

They can be especially helpful when you want to make expectations clear around things like physical touch, alcohol, public meeting places, or how someone responds if you say no or feel uncomfortable.

How can boundary deal breakers help support safety before and during the date?

1. Set expectations before the first date
Boundary deal breakers give you a way to communicate what matters before meeting in person. This can reduce ambiguity, make your boundaries clearer from the start, and support consent by helping communicate expectations before you are in a more pressured or uncomfortable moment. For a deeper look at this topic, see our Consent 101 guide.

2. Filter out people who do not pass before the date
On Skip, boundary deal breakers do not just help you ask important questions. They also help filter out people who do not pass your required standards before moving forward. That can help you avoid poor matches and reduce the chance of ending up on a date with someone who already failed to meet what matters most to you.

3. Avoid awkward or pressured in-person moments
It is often easier and safer to identify important issues before a date than during one. Boundary deal breakers help move that screening earlier, so you do not have to bring up certain boundaries for the first time in person while trying to read someone’s reaction in the moment.

4. Make red flags easier to recognize on the date
If someone later crosses a line on a date after your boundary was already clearly communicated through your deal breakers, that can make it easier to recognize a red flag for what it is. You are not left wondering whether you were unclear, whether you are overreacting, or whether they did not understand. Your boundary was already made clear.

How do boundary deal breakers work with Skip Date Cards?

Boundary deal breakers are not limited to online profiles. They can also be used for offline connections through Skip Date Cards. Date Cards help turn an offline connection into a safer first date by guiding the other person through your required safety steps on Skip, including background checks and boundary deal breakers, before you go on a date.

Can I propose a date while my background check is pending?

If a background check is required for that match, no. You will need to complete and pass the background check before moving forward with proposing a date.
Most background checks are completed within about 24 hours, but some can take 3 to 5 business days depending on the review process, record availability, or if additional information is needed.

What does it mean if my match’s background check is pending?

If your match’s background check is marked pending, it means their screening is still being processed and is not complete yet. If you require a completed background check, they will need to finish that step before they can propose a date. Most background checks are completed within about 24 hours, but some can take 3 to 5 business days depending on the review process, record availability, or if additional information is needed.

How long does a background check usually take?

Most background checks are completed within about 24 hours, but some may take longer. In some cases, reviews can take 3 to 5 business days depending on the screening process, record availability, or if additional information is needed.

Why is my background check still pending?

A background check may remain pending if the screening process is still in progress, records are taking longer to return, or additional information is needed. Some checks are completed quickly, while others may take a few business days.

What happens if Checkr asks me for more information or documents?

If additional information is needed, you may be asked to provide more details or documents to continue the background check process. Your background check may stay pending until the requested information is submitted and reviewed.

If you do not provide the requested information within the requested time, you may not pass the background check, and your submission may expire. If that happens, you may need to start the process again and pay for a new background check.

Please follow the instructions in the email or prompt you received.

What happens if I do not complete the requested background check information?

If you do not complete the requested information, your background check may remain incomplete or expire, and will not be able to move forward with date proposals that require a completed background check. If that happens, you may need to start the process again and pay for a new background check.

What if my background check invite link expires?

If your background check invite link expires, the old link will no longer work. You will need to start the background check flow again in the app to receive a new invite link or follow the latest prompt provided by Skip.

Who pays for the background check?

If a background check is required, the person completing the background check is responsible for the cost. Pricing may vary and will be shown during the background check flow before completion. In woman seeking man matches, this would typically mean the man pays for the background check if he needs to complete it before he can propose a date. Anyone can also choose to complete a background check at any time from Settings and, if they receive a passed status, they may receive a background check badge.

Why does Skip not have in-app chat?

Skip is designed to help people go on safer and better dates, with more accountability and less wasted time. By removing in-app chat, Skip is able to automate the dating process with custom deal breakers, background checks, scheduling, and date reviews built in. This helps create a safer dating experience by adding more structure and accountability before the first date, while also helping reduce chat-based ghosting, bot messages, unsolicited pics, scams, and AI chat catfishing inside the app.

Can I complete a background check before matching with someone?

Yes. Anyone can complete a background check at any time from the Settings page, even before matching with someone. If you receive a passed status, you may receive a background check badge.

Will I need to complete a background check for every date?

No, not if your current background check result is still valid. Skip background check results may remain valid for a period of time (for example, up to 12 months), so you do not need to repeat the process for every date during that valid period.

How long are background check results valid?

Background check results are generally valid for 12 months from approval, unless otherwise stated in the app. After expiration, you may need to complete a new background check if a future match requires one.

If I already passed a background check, do I need to take another one for a new match?

No, not if your current background check result is still valid. Skip background check results may remain valid for a period of time (for example, up to 12 months), so you do not need to repeat the process for every date during that valid period.

Can my background check badge go away after I pass?

Yes, it can. A background check badge reflects a passed status at a point in time. If the background check expires, a recheck is required, or your status changes, your badge or status may change. Background check results are generally valid for a limited time, for example up to 12 months, unless otherwise stated in the app.

What does the background check screen for?

Skip partners with Checkr, a background check provider trusted by 100,000+ customers and used by companies like Uber, Lyft, Airbnb, and Instacart. Screening may include, where available:

- Sex offender registry search: Searches registries from all 50 states, Washington DC, and US territories.
- Global watchlist search: Searches a comprehensive network of domestic and international government watchlists for criminal history.
- National criminal search: Searches county records that query up to 900 million public records.

Skip does not publicly display your background check report to your matches. Matches may only see status information or a badge related to background check completion. Background checks help reduce risk, but they do not verify identity and do not guarantee safety.

Does Skip show my full background check report to my matches?

No, Skip does not publicly display your full background check report to your matches. Matches may only see status information or a badge related to background check completion.

What personal information is shared for a background check?

Skip only uses the information needed to support the background check process through its provider. Information handling and data use are subject to Skip’s policies and the background check provider’s process. Please review the relevant privacy terms in the app for more details.

Can I dispute incorrect background check results?

Yes, if you believe a background check result is incorrect, you should follow the dispute instructions provided in the background check process or provider communications. The screening provider handles the reporting process and any disputes about screening records.

Is the background check feature available for all users and all match types?

Anyone can complete a background check from the Settings page and, if they receive a passed status, they may receive a background check badge.

Who can require a background check before a date depends on match type and the user’s selected experience. In woman seeking man matches, women can require a background check before a man can propose or confirm a date. Men in this match type cannot require a background check from the woman.

In other match types, the ability to require the other person to complete a background check is available only to the person who selected the “screen others” experience (the user who sets requirements for their dates).

What is a dating readiness check-in?

Dating readiness check is not about having everything figured out. It is about checking in with yourself and asking whether dating feels supportive to your safety, well-being, and emotional capacity right now.

For some people, dating may feel exciting and manageable. For others, past experiences, especially sexual assault, coercion, abuse, or other trauma, can affect how safe dating feels in ways that are not always obvious at first. Past trauma can shape how your nervous system responds to attention, pressure, conflict, intimacy, or uncertainty. These responses are common, and they are not your fault. But they can make it harder to recognize risk, hold boundaries, and leave unsafe situations.

Taking a dating readiness check-in can help you better understand your patterns, strengthen your boundaries, and decide whether this is a good season to date, or a good season to pause and focus on healing first.

How do I know if I may need to pause dating for now?

Pausing dating is not failure. Sometimes it is the strongest and safest choice.

You may want to pause if:

- you regularly ignore your instincts
- you often go along with things you do not want
- you feel unable to say no or leave
- you frequently dissociate, shut down, or feel numb on dates
- dating consistently leaves you feeling panicked, dysregulated, or ashamed
- you are using dating to escape pain, prove your worth, or avoid being alone
- you know your wounds need more support, such as therapy or other forms of healing, before dating feels safe

A pause can create space for healing, clarity, and support. At Skip, we care about you and your safety. If dating does not feel safe or supportive right now, we encourage you to pause, whether that means taking a break from Skip, other dating apps, or dating altogether, and focus on getting the support and healing you need.

How do I enable or disable the background check requirement?

You can manage this in your preferences where background check options are available. Availability may depend on your match type and current app version.

Can I turn on background checks later?

Yes, if the feature is available in your settings, you can update your background check preferences later. Changes may apply to future matches.

If I turn on background checks now, will it affect my current matches?

This may depend on your app’s current background check flow and when the match is in the process. In general, new settings are most likely to apply to future actions, but the app will guide users based on the current flow.

What happens if my match turns on background checks after we already matched?

This may depend on where you are in the date flow and how the feature is configured in the app. In general, if a background check becomes required before moving forward with the date, Skip will prompt the required person to complete it before the date can proceed. Skip will guide you to the next step in the app if additional action is needed.

Can I use Skip without enabling background checks?

Yes. Background checks are optional to require. You can still use Skip without turning on background check requirements, depending on your match type and selected experience.Anyone can also choose to complete their own background check from Settings and, if they receive a passed status, they may receive a background check badge.

What is the difference between profile verification, ID review, and a background check?

These are different parts of Skip’s safety and screening features.

- Profile verification (blue check): Uses a live selfie to help confirm a user’s profile photos match them.

- ID review: Part of Skip’s background check flow, uses a government-issued ID and photo comparisons to help reduce fraud risk and help confirm the background check submission matches the user’s submitted information.

- Background check (green badge): Indicates the user completed a Skip background check and received a passed status at a point in time.

These features work together, but they do not mean the same thing, and one does not replace the other.

What does “ID verification pending” or “profile verification pending” mean?

This means your verification review is still in progress. Some verifications are completed quickly, while others may take longer depending on review volume or if additional review is needed. Please check back soon.

What happens if I pass a background check but my profile verification is still pending?

Background checks and profile verification are separate steps. Passing one does not automatically complete the other.

Can I see whether a match has completed profile verification and/or a background check?

Yes. Skip shows both badges on a user’s profile when they have passed, profile verification (blue check) and background check (green badge).

What information do I need to provide for a background check?

The exact information requested may vary, but Skip’s background check flow may require personal information needed to process the background check, along with SSN verification and an ID review step.

The ID review requires a government-issued ID (such as a driver’s license or passport) and helps confirm that the background check submission matches the user’s submitted information, including their name, profile photos, and profile verification selfie/live photo.

If additional information or documents are needed, you may be asked to provide them during the background check process or through a follow-up prompt.

If there is no chat, how can I vet someone before meeting?

Skip is designed to help create a safer and better dating experience by combining multiple safety and compatibility features across the full dating process, before, during, and after the date. By removing in-app chat, Skip is able to automate the dating process with custom compatibility and boundary deal breaker questions, background checks, profile details and prompts, profile verification, scheduling, and date reviews built in. Matches must pass your required safety and compatibility steps before they can propose a date. This puts more focus on structured screening, clearer expectations, and safety measures before the first date, without relying on long, ambiguous messaging, which can be even less reliable today because of AI chat catfishing and bots.

What does “No ghosting” mean on Skip?

Skip does not offer in-app chat, so the common dating app experience of someone disappearing in chat without clarity does not happen on Skip. Users can still decline a date proposal or cancel a date if needed, but Skip removes the in-app chat ghosting problem by eliminating chat.

What does “No bot messages” mean on Skip?

Skip does not offer in-app chat, so users do not receive in-app chat messages from bots on Skip. This helps reduce messaging spam and chat based scams inside the app.

What does “No unsolicited pics” mean on Skip?

Skip does not offer in-app chat, so users cannot send unsolicited photos through in-app chat on Skip. This helps prevent unwanted or inappropriate chat photo messages in the app.

What does “No AI chat catfishing” mean on Skip?

Skip does not offer in-app chat, which removes a major way bots, scammers, or people using AI can impersonate real interest through long conversations. In a time when chat can be less reliable because of AI-generated messages and bots, Skip focuses more on structured screening, clearer expectations, and safety steps before the first date.

If there is no chat, how do we coordinate the date?

Skip is designed to automate screening, scheduling, and date proposal flows in the app so users can move toward a real date without needing in-app chat. The app guides the date setup process when both users are aligned.

How do date reviews work?

On Skip, date reviews can help make first dates safer by adding accountability after the date. Users can leave private feedback after each date, helping surface red flags, support a safer community, and make it easier for Skip to identify and remove unsafe behavior. After a date, users are prompted to leave a review about how the date went. These reviews help support safety and accountability across the platform.

This process includes four key parts:

- Anonymous ratings and reviews: Users can leave private feedback after each date. These reviews can help surface patterns of disrespect, pressure, ignored boundaries, or other behavior that feels unsafe, uncomfortable, or against our Community Guidelines. This gives Skip important context to help support safer dating in the future.

- Compliments as a trust signal: After a date, users may choose from pre-written compliments, such as “Even better in person,” “Respectful to staff,” and more. These compliments are displayed on the other person’s profile and can serve as an added safety-related trust signal for future users considering whether to like their profile or go on a date, because they reflect positive feedback from a real date through Skip.

- Date tracking: Skip logs who, where, and when a date occurs, helping connect reviews to real dates and add accountability.

- Removing unsafe users: Reviews help flag users who may violate safety standards, making it easier for Skip to review concerns and remove unsafe users when needed.

Date reviews are one part of how Skip helps support a safer community.

What happens after I submit a date review?

Date reviews are used to help improve safety and accountability on the platform. Reviews may be used as part of internal safety review processes, including identifying patterns, flagging issues, and helping remove bad actors when needed.

Are date reviews anonymous?

Yes. Date reviews are anonymous within Skip’s review flow. They are used as part of Skip’s internal safety and accountability processes. Depending on the review options selected, a user may also choose to share specific feedback with their date directly.

Are date reviews publicly displayed on users profiles?

Anonymous date reviews are not publicly displayed on user profiles. However, positive post-date compliments, such as “Even better in person,” “Respectful to staff,” and others, may appear on a profile as added trust signals.

Can my date see my review?

Depending on the review options you choose, you may have the option to share specific feedback with your date or choose to keep it private.

Do both people leave a review after the date?

Yes, Skip will prompt both people to complete a post-date review after the date. Reviews help improve safety, accountability, and future date quality.

What happens after a date is accepted?

After a date is accepted, Skip guides both people through the date flow, including confirmation, arrival updates, and check-in before meeting.

On the day of the date, Skip allows each person to confirm they are still able to attend starting about 8 hours before the date. Both people must confirm at least 2 hours before the date. If one person does not confirm in time, Skip will automatically cancel the date and notify the other person.

Each person can also see when the other person has confirmed. As the date gets closer, Skip guides both people through the next steps in the app, including sharing ETA and arrival details.

Do we need to confirm the date before meeting?

Yes, both people are required to confirm they are still able to meet at least 2 hours before the date. Skip uses confirmation and accountability steps to help reduce no-shows and improve safety. You can also share your ETA when you are on your way. If you have trouble finding each other when you arrive, Skip provides a way to call your date through the app.

What happens if one of us does not confirm the date in time?

If one or both people do not complete the required confirmation steps in time, the date will be cancelled. Skip uses confirmation steps to help reduce no-shows and improve accountability.

Can I still cancel after I already confirmed the date?

Yes. You can cancel a date if needed. However, repeated cancellations after the confirmation point (within 2 hours of the date) may lead to penalties, because Skip uses accountability steps to help reduce no-shows.

What is the date details page and where do I find it?

The date details page in the Skip app, found under the Calendar icon, is where you manage date-day steps like confirmation, ETA updates, check-in, arrival details, and private calling if needed. Open your scheduled date in the app to access the date details page.

How do I let my date know I arrived?

When you arrive, open the date details page in the Skip app to check in. Skip will prompt you to share where you are so your date can find you more easily. You can also share how your date can recognize you, for example what you are wearing, and add a photo of yourself. This helps make meeting up smoother and reduces confusion at the date location.

What should I send when I check in at the date location?

When checking in, it helps to share a clear location description, for example where you are sitting at a table left of the door inside, so your date can find you faster. Skip may also prompt you for additional arrival details in the app.

Can I tell my date how to recognize me when I arrive?

Yes. Skip prompts you to share details to help your date recognize you, such as what you are wearing and a photo. This helps make the meetup easier and less awkward.

Can I share my ETA if I am on the way or running late?

Yes. Skip allows you to share your ETA as you are heading to the date. This helps your date know whether you are on time or running late.

What if I am running late to the date?

If you are running late, update your ETA in the app as soon as possible so your date knows your status. Keeping your ETA updated helps reduce confusion and improves the date experience.

What if I arrive and cannot find my date?

If you are having trouble finding each other after arriving, Skip provides a private number you can use to call your date. This helps you connect without sharing your personal phone number.

What if both of us arrive, but we cannot find each other?

Open the date details page in the Skip app and update your check-in details, including where you are, what you are wearing, and a photo if available. If needed, use the private calling option in the app to connect without sharing your personal phone number.

Can I call my date through Skip if I cannot find them at the date location?

Yes. If you are having trouble finding each other after arriving at the date location, Skip provides a private number you can use to call your date. This helps you connect without sharing your personal phone number.

Can I call my date before I arrive?

Skip’s private calling option is designed for helping you connect when you arrive at the date location and cannot find each other. Follow the date flow prompts in the app for when calling is available.

What happens if I check in but my date does not check in?

If your date has not checked in yet, you can go to date details page to share your location and how they can recognize you. If you cannot find each other after arriving, use the private calling option in the app. If your date does not arrive, you can complete the post-date review flow and report the issue if needed.

What happens if my date doesnt show?

If your date does not show up, first use the date details page in the Skip app to check arrival details and try the private calling option in case you are having trouble finding each other. If they still do not show, complete the post-date review and share what happened. Skip uses reviews and accountability systems to help reduce no-shows and improve the experience.

How do I know which steps are still pending before a date can be scheduled?

Skip shows required steps within the date flow when action is needed, such as passing deal breakers, background checks (if required), or verification steps. Follow the prompts shown in the app to continue.

What does “pending” match mean?

“Pending” means a required step is still in progress, such as a background check review or another required action before the date can move forward.

When does a match expire?

Matches expire after 48 hours if no one responds and no date is set up. If a required background check is in progress, the match may be placed in pending status while that step is completed.

Will my match know I required a background check?

Yes, If your settings require a background check before moving forward with a date, your match will be prompted in the flow when that step is required. Skip guides them through the required next steps in the app.

Why can’t I propose a date yet?

There may be one or more required steps still pending before a date can be proposed, such as matching, passing deal breakers, completing a background check (if required), or other required verification steps. Skip will guide you to the next step in the app.

Why can’t my match propose a date to me yet?

Your match may still have required steps pending, such as passing your deal breakers, completing a background check (if required), or other required verification steps. Once they complete the required steps, they can move forward if eligible.

Can someone message me on Skip after a date?

Skip does not offer in-app chat. This means users cannot message each other through in-app chat before or after a date. Skip is designed to automate screening, scheduling, and date setup without in-app chat. Users can choose what contact information to share after the date, if any.

Do I have to share my contact information after the date?

No. You are in control of what contact information, if any, you share after the date. Skip does not publicly display your phone number on your profile.

How do I share my date details with friends or family?

Open your date details page in the Skip app, then tap the Share icon. Skip makes it easy to share key date details, including who you are meeting, where, and when, so trusted friends or family can stay informed. This is part of Skip’s safety-focused date flow.

Do I need to use my real phone number with my date?

No. Skip does not require you to share your personal phone number with your date. For added privacy, Skip recommends using a second number, such as Google Voice, until you decide you are ready to share your real contact information.

What does “second phone number” mean on Skip?

Skip recommends using a second phone number, such as a Google Voice number, for added privacy and safety. This can help protect your personal phone number until you decide you are comfortable sharing it.

When should I share my contact information with my date?

Skip is designed so you can wait until after the first date to share contact information, if you choose. You stay in control of when and with whom you share your contact details.

How do Date Cards help make first dates safer?

Skip Date Cards help turn an offline connection into a safer first date by guiding the other person through your required safety steps on Skip, including background checks, boundary deal breakers, and profile verification, before you agree to go on a date.

Do Date Cards work with the same safety features as the app?

Yes. If a Date Card leads to a match in Skip, the normal Skip flow and safety features still apply, including deal breakers, background checks (if required), profile verification, and date reviews.

How do Date Cards work with background checks?

Background checks are not limited to online profiles. They can also be used for offline connections through Skip Date Cards. Date Cards help turn an offline connection into a safer first date by guiding the other person through your required safety steps on Skip, including background checks and boundary deal breakers, before you go on a date.

If I require a background check, does that apply to Date Card matches too?

If your background check requirement is enabled and applies to your match flow, then yes, a Date Card connection that becomes a match would still need to complete the required steps before moving forward to a date proposal.

If I meet someone through Date Cards, do they still need to pass my deal breakers?

Yes. Date Cards are not separate from Skip’s compatibility or safety system. If your current flow includes deal breakers, the person still needs to pass your required deal breaker questions before they can propose a date. If you require a background check, that step can still apply too.

Do I need Date Cards to use Skip?

No. Date Cards are optional. You can use Skip entirely in the app without ordering Date Cards. Date Cards are simply an additional way to turn an in-person connection into a more structured and safer first date.

Do Skip Date Cards work in cities that are not open yet?

Yes. Skip Date Cards work anywhere in the USA, so you are not limited to only using them in cities where Skip already has a larger online presence.

Are my deal breakers publicly displayed on my profile?

No. Your deal breaker questions are not publicly displayed on your profile. Only someone you like who matches with you can see and answer your deal breaker questions.

Why am I seeing people who smoke when I set one of my deal breakers to be no smokers?

The people you see on your swipe home page are shown before deal breakers are applied. If you both like (heart) each other, your match will be prompted to answer your deal breaker questions. If they pass 100% of them, and a background check (if enabled), they can then send you a date proposal.

How do I add / edit / remove my deal breakers?

Tap on profile, Then preferences icon, then select where it says “Deal breakers” and adjust your deal breakers to your liking. See video below. Video Demo

What does consent mean when dating?

Consent is a clear, voluntary, enthusiastic, informed, and ongoing agreement between everyone involved.

Key aspects of consent:

- Consent must be freely given: It's an enthusiastic "yes," not the absence of a "no".
- Consent isn't permanent: Agreeing to one activity doesn't mean agreement for others, different times, or different people.
- Consent can be withdrawn: Someone can change their mind at any point.
- Incapacitation invalidates consent: Alcohol, drugs, sleep, or blackouts prevent someone from giving consent.

If these things are not true, then it is not consent.

Can Skip’s features replace consent in the moment?

No. Skip’s structure can help reduce ambiguity and support more intentional dating, but no app feature can replace consent in the moment. Consent still has to be clear, ongoing, and respected.

What if something happened without my consent?

If something happened without your consent, it was not your fault. If you froze, felt pressured, went along out of fear, or someone used manipulation or coercion, your experience still matters and is valid.

Many people feel confusion, shame, or self-blame afterward, especially when trauma responses like freezing, fawning, dissociation, or self-blame are involved. That does not mean what happened was okay.

Physical responses do not equal consent. A body can respond during an unwanted or nonconsensual experience, and that does not make what happened okay.

Consent can feel more complicated if past trauma has made it harder to notice discomfort, trust your instincts, or act on your boundaries in the moment. That does not make what happened your fault. It simply means support, clarity, and self-trust may matter even more.

If this brings up patterns that make dating feel confusing, unsafe, or hard to navigate, it may help to consider pausing dating for now while you focus on support, healing, and rebuilding trust in your instincts and boundaries. You may also want to read our Dating Readiness Check guide.

If you want to report what happened, getting medical care sooner can be helpful. It may support your health and may help preserve evidence. You can still get care and support even if you are not ready to report to law enforcement. You may also want to read our Consent 101 guide.

If you need more support, these resources may help:

Find a therapist through Psychology Today
RAINN: Overcoming Trauma After Sexual Violence
RAINN: How to Find a Trauma-Informed Therapist
RAINN: How to Tell Someone You Were Sexually Assaulted
RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE

How does reporting work on Skip?

If someone behaves in a way that feels unsafe, inappropriate, suspicious, abusive, dishonest, or harmful, you can report them through Skip. Reports help our team review concerning behavior, identify patterns, and take action when needed.

When should I report someone?

You should consider reporting someone if they seem fake, appear under 18, share explicit content, pressure you, ignore your boundaries, harass you, behave dishonestly or suspiciously, make you fear for your safety, or violate Skip’s Community Guidelines or Safety Policy in any other way.

How do reporting and date reviews work together?

After a date, Skip also prompts both people to leave an anonymous review. These reviews are not publicly displayed on profiles. They are used as part of Skip’s internal safety and accountability processes, including helping flag issues and identify unsafe behavior over time.

If something happened on a date that felt unsafe, inappropriate, pressuring, dishonest, or harmful, use the reporting tools and complete your post-date review honestly. Date reviews and reporting can work together to help surface patterns and remove unsafe users.

How does profile verification help make first dates safer?

On Skip, profile verification can help make first dates safer by helping confirm that the person using the profile is the same person shown in the profile photos. It adds another trust signal before meeting in person and helps support a safer, more authentic dating experience.

What are some tips for using boundary deal breakers well?

Choose the boundaries that matter most to you
Focus on the questions and standards that help you feel safe, respected, and comfortable.

Be clear and intentional
The more clearly your deal breakers reflect what matters to you, the more useful they become as a safety tool.

Pay attention to what happens later, not just what was answered
If someone passes your deal breakers but later tries to push past what was already made clear, take that seriously. You do not need to keep explaining your boundaries. Slow things down, end the interaction, leave if needed, and consider no longer seeing that person again. If you feel unsafe or are in immediate danger, contact emergency services right away.

Do not feel pressured to give endless grace
You do not need to keep explaining or defending a boundary that was already made clear. Someone who respects you should take it seriously.

What are some dating safety tips before the date?

Take a moment to review the safety and compatibility tools available to you on Skip. 

Set your deal breakers
On Skip, deal breakers can help with both compatibility and safety. Compatibility deal breakers help filter for fit. Boundary deal breakers can make first dates safer by helping you communicate boundaries clearly, set expectations early, and filter out people who do not pass your standards before a first date ever happens, because matches must pass your deal breakers at 100 percent before they can propose a date.

Boundary deal breakers can also make it easier to recognize a red flag if someone later crosses a line on a date, because your boundaries were already clearly communicated beforehand.Do a

dating readiness check-in
Before dating, take a moment to check in with yourself and whether you feel ready to date in a way that supports your safety and well-being. Past sexual assault or trauma can affect dating safety in real ways, especially if those wounds have not had space to heal, often with the help of therapy or other support. It may show up as freezing, fawning, ignoring your instincts, going along with things to avoid conflict, struggling to enforce boundaries, dissociating, or feeling pressure to stay in situations that do not feel right. These responses are common after trauma and are not your fault, but they can make it harder to recognize risk, hold boundaries, and leave unsafe situations. If you notice these patterns coming up, consider pausing dating for now and focusing on support and healing first. To learn more, read our full guide on date readiness check.

Require a background check
Depending on your match type and settings, you may be able to require a match to complete a background check before they can propose a date. Background checks help make first dates safer. Skip uses SSN verification, which helps reduce fraud risk compared to name-only screening.

Find someone you like
You can tap the heart icon to like someone already on the Skip app — or, if you meet someone in person you're interested in, hand them a Date Card to invite them to be screened for a potential date with you. Date Cards help turn an offline connection into a safer first date by guiding the other person through your required safety steps on Skip, like background checks and deal breakers, before going on a date.

Look for multiple trust signals
Before liking someone on Skip, review their profile, photos, prompts, verification status, and past date review tags carefully and trust your judgment if something seems unusual or does not add up.

Meet in a public placeOnce you receive a date proposal from a match who has passed your deal breakers and background check requirement, use Skip’s date planning flow to align on a time and location that works for both of you. For safety, only choose a public, well-lit place where you feel comfortable and can easily leave if needed.

What are some dating safety tips for the day of the date?

Share your date details
Let a trusted friend or family member know who you are meeting, where you are going, and when. Skip can help you keep those details organized.

Use your own transportation
Try to avoid relying on someone you do not know well for a ride to or from the date.

Be mindful with alcohol
If you choose to drink, keep it moderate and stay aware of how you feel. Do not leave your drink unattended, and do not feel pressured to drink more than you want. If someone pushes your limits, encourages you to drink more, or makes you feel less in control, take that seriously.

Have an exit plan
Before the date, make sure your phone is charged, you know how you are getting home, and you have a simple reason ready to leave if needed. You do not need to debate or explain your way out of an uncomfortable situation.

Watch for pressure to change the plan
Be cautious if someone tries to move the date from a public place to a private one, pressures you to stay longer than you want, or pushes past what you already agreed to. That can be an early red flag.

Pay attention to behavior
Badges and features matter, but behavior matters more. If someone pressures you, ignores your boundaries, or makes you feel uncomfortable, take that seriously.

If something feels off
Trust your instincts. You do not owe anyone more time, more information, or another chance just because they say they did not mean it. If you feel uncomfortable, leave. If someone behaves in a way that feels unsafe or inappropriate, report them through Skip. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services right away.

Review what consent looks like when dating
Consent is not just about saying yes or no. It is about making sure any interaction is clear, voluntary, informed, and respectful.

Key aspects of consent:
- Consent must be freely given: It's an enthusiastic "yes," not the absence of a "no".
- Consent isn't permanent: Agreeing to one activity doesn't mean agreement for others, different times, or different people.
- Consent can be withdrawn: Someone can change their mind at any point.
- Incapacitation invalidates consent: Alcohol, drugs, sleep, or blackouts prevent someone from giving consent.

If these things are not true, then it is not consent.
If something happened without your consent, it was not your fault. If you froze, did not fight back, felt pressured, went along with something out of fear, or someone used manipulation or coercion, what happened still matters, and your experience is valid. If you want a deeper look at this topic, see our Consent 101 guide.

What are some dating safety tips after the date?

After the date, both people are prompted to leave an anonymous review. These reviews are not publicly displayed on user profiles and are used as part of Skip’s internal safety and accountability processes, including flagging issues and helping remove people when needed. Depending on the review options selected, a user may also choose to share specific feedback with your date directly.

Take a moment to check in with yourself.
Did you feel respected and comfortable? Did this person honor your boundaries you had set? Did the date feel aligned with what you want and your deal breakers?

Protect your privacy
After the date, you decide what contact information to share, if any. Skip is designed so you wait until after the first date to share contact information, if you choose. For added privacy and safety, Skip gives you the option to use a second phone number, such as Google Voice, until you feel comfortable sharing your primary number.

How can I do a simple dating readiness check-in before dating?

Before dating, take a moment to ask yourself:

- When I think about dating right now, does my body feel calm, tense, shut down, or on edge?
- If a date starts to feel uncomfortable, do I usually speak up, freeze, go quiet, or go along with things to avoid conflict?
- Have I ever looked back on a date and wished I had listened to myself sooner?
- Have past experiences made it harder to trust my boundaries or instincts while dating?
- How often does alcohol affect how clear, grounded, or in control I feel while dating?
- Do I feel able to say no, slow down, or leave, even if it disappoints someone?
- Do I tend to blame myself or minimize what happened after a dating or sexual experience that left me uncomfortable, pressured, confused, or upset?
- Do I have someone I trust I could reach out to if a date left me feeling unsafe, confused, pressured, or harmed?

You do not need perfect answers. The goal is simply to notice where you are right now.

How can past trauma affect dating safety?

Past trauma, especially sexual trauma, can affect dating safety long after the original experience. Sometimes the impact is not obvious at first. It may show up later in patterns like feeling disconnected from yourself, drinking more to cope, struggling to hold boundaries, going along with things you do not truly want, or getting stuck in cycles of loneliness, shame, or self-blame.

Trauma can shape how your nervous system responds to attention, pressure, conflict, intimacy, or uncertainty. You may notice things like:

- freezing when uncomfortable
- fawning, or going along with things to avoid conflict
- ignoring your instincts
- dissociating, feeling disconnected, or having trouble remembering parts of what happened
- emotionally shutting down or compartmentalizing what happened in order to get through it
- feeling like you went along with a sexual experience that did not reflect your values or what you truly wanted
- struggling to enforce boundariesfeeling pressure to stay in situations that do not feel right, and not knowing how to safely leave
- becoming avoidant, anxious, defensive, or overwhelmed in dating situations

These responses are not weakness. They are common survival responses from the nervous system that may once have helped you cope with danger. But in dating, they can make it harder to recognize red flags, respond in the moment, or protect your own boundaries.

Sometimes you may know your values clearly and still struggle to access them under stress. That is part of why a readiness check matters. Dating readiness is not just about knowing your boundaries, it is also about asking whether those boundaries feel usable when a situation becomes uncomfortable, pressured, or overwhelming.

How can common trauma responses affect dating?

Fawn response
A fawn response can look like agreeing to things to avoid conflict, prioritizing someone else’s comfort over your own, being overly accommodating on dates, or feeling regret afterward. This often happens because your nervous system learned that staying agreeable could reduce perceived threat.In dating, this can make it harder to say no, slow things down, or honor your discomfort.

Freeze response
A freeze response can look like going quiet, feeling numb, feeling unable to speak up, or later wondering why you did not leave. The nervous system may shut down when it senses danger, especially when escape does not feel possible.This can be especially confusing because afterward you may judge yourself for not reacting differently, even though your body was trying to protect you.

Flight response
A flight response can look like canceling dates due to anxiety, avoiding dating altogether after painful experiences, or feeling a strong urge to escape emotional closeness. This can happen when your nervous system starts associating dating with danger.Sometimes avoidance is protective. Sometimes it is a sign that more support may be needed before dating feels manageable again.

Fight response
A fight response can look like irritability, defensiveness, or intense anger when boundaries feel threatened. Your body may be trying to stay alert and ready to defend against harm.This does not make you difficult. It may mean your system does not yet feel safe.

Dissociation
Dissociation can look like feeling detached, unreal, numb, or like you are watching yourself from the outside. You may lose track of time, struggle to stay present, or feel disconnected during intimacy or stress. Dissociation is one way the brain creates distance from overwhelming experiences.

If this happens during dating, it can make it harder to stay connected to your instincts and limits in the moment.

How can alcohol affect dating safety?

Alcohol can make dating feel easier in the moment, but it can also lower your ability to recognize discomfort, enforce boundaries, or respond clearly to unsafe situations. It may increase confusion afterward, especially for people already navigating trauma-related patterns.

That does not make anything that happened your fault. It simply means alcohol can make a vulnerable situation harder to navigate.

For some people, it may help to choose lower-alcohol or alcohol-free early dates until trust is established.

How can past trauma make boundaries harder to enforce while dating?

You may know your values clearly and still struggle to enforce them in real time. You may question yourself afterward, minimize what happened, or wonder whether you were overreacting. Past trauma, especially sexual trauma, can disrupt your internal sense of safety and self-trust, even long after the original experience.

That is why dating readiness is not just about knowing your boundaries. It is also about asking whether those boundaries feel accessible to you under stress.

Before dating, it may help to identify 2 or 3 non-negotiables around things like:

- pace
- physical boundaries
- alcohol
- transportation
- communication
- where and when you meet

Keeping them simple can make them easier to remember and use.

How can trauma-related shame make dating harder?

Many people carry shame after trauma, especially sexual trauma. It may sound like:

- “I should be over this by now”
- “Why did I not leave?”
- “Maybe I am just too sensitive”
- “Something must be wrong with me”

Shame often follows trauma, especially when boundaries or consent were violated, even though the trauma was not your fault. It can make it harder to trust your needs, speak up for yourself, or believe you deserve safety and respect.

Part of dating readiness is noticing whether shame is still running the conversation inside you.

What are some signs you may be more ready to date?

Readiness does not mean fear disappears. It may simply mean you feel more able to care for yourself while dating.

You may be more ready if:
- you can notice discomfort earlier
- you trust your instincts more
- you can name a few clear boundaries
- you feel able to slow down or leave if needed
- you are dating from desire, not pressure
- you have support in place if dating brings things up
- you feel able to recover from disappointment without abandoning yourself
- you have received support, such as therapy or other healing work, for past trauma, including sexual trauma, that could affect dating

What are some ways to support healing before or during dating?

Healing looks different for everyone, but support can make dating feel safer and more grounded.

Depending on your needs, support may include:

- trauma-informed therapy
- EMDRsomatic work or trauma-informed yoga
- grounding practices
- trusted friends or supportive community
- support groups
- faith-based support, such as a pastor, counselor, or church community

You do not need to try everything. The goal is to find support that helps you feel safer in your body, more connected to your boundaries, and better able to trust yourself while dating.

What does consent not look like?

Consent is not:

- silence
- freezing
- going along with something out of fear
- giving in because someone kept asking
- feeling too pressured, guilty, overwhelmed, or worn down to say no
- agreeing to one thing and then being pushed into something else
- saying yes while intoxicated, asleep, blacked out, or otherwise unable to decide clearly

If someone seems hesitant, uncomfortable, confused, quiet, or no longer actively participating, stop and check in. If the answer is not clear, do not keep going.

What can consent look like when dating?

Before the date
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Use your deal breakers to communicate your boundaries before the date.
- Be clear about the plan, location, timing, and expectations.

During the date
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Pay attention to both words and body language. If they do not match, slow down and check in.
- Do not assume comfort just because someone agreed to the date.
- Ask clearly. A simple “Are you comfortable with this?” can go a long way.
- If someone seems tense, hesitant, uncomfortable, unsure, or quiet, slow down or stop.
- Respect their pace, and do not pressure them to share more than they want, stay out later, drink more, or change the plan.

After the date
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Respect their decision about whether to share contact information after the date.
- If you receive feedback that something felt uncomfortable, listen and learn.

How do alcohol and pressure affect consent?

Alcohol can make situations feel easier in the moment, but it can also make it harder to recognize discomfort, hold boundaries, or respond clearly. If someone is under the influence of alcohol or drugs, asleep, or blacked out, they cannot give consent.

Pressure matters too. If someone is pushing you to drink more, stay longer, go somewhere more private, move faster than you want, or do something you already seem unsure about, that is not respectful behavior. It can also be an early warning sign that your boundaries may not be honored.

What are some signs a date may be unsafe or not okay?

Take it seriously if someone:

- keeps pushing after hesitation
- acts like you owe them something because they paid for the date, spent time with you, or think you led them on
- uses guilt, persistence, pressure, or manipulation to get a yes
- pushes alcohol when you have said no or seem unsure
- tries to move the date from public to private in a way that makes you less comfortable
- gnores your boundaries or acts like they are negotiable

These are red flags.

Can you reorder the deal breaker questions?

Today, you have to delete and add to reorder. We plan on making an update where you can drag and drop the deal breaker questions in the future.

As a woman interested in a man, what happens after she likes a profile?

After a woman likes a man’s profile, her profile appears on the man’s Likes page. If he likes her back, he is prompted to answer her deal breaker questions. If he passes 100% of them, and the background check (if enabled), he can propose a date. If she accepts, the date is booked."

Are men interested in women able to set their own deal breakers?

Today, men who are interested in women are not able to set their own deal breakers. In the future we are planning on allowing that as an optional for men. The reason why we dont today is because the data indicated that most men didn't have a strong preference in setting deal breakers and instead were comfortable knowing they were aligned with the women’s deal breakers and liking their profile. This helped save time and reduce friction for setting up a date.

How does Skip work for LQBTQ+?

You get the choice to decide if you are interested in screening others or would like to be screened. So for example if a man was interested in a man. Man 1 selects if he wants to screen others then he would be provided the option to set up deal breakers. If Man 2 had selected he was open with being screened by others then he would not set up deal breakers. Man 1 and Man 2 would presented to each other as profiles to review and potentially like or pass on each for a date.

How do I block or report a profile?

Scroll down on a profile and see the red buttons to report or block a profile. Video Demo

What happens when I block a profile?

When you block a profile you will no longer see them come up in your potential profile options on your home page.

Once I get a date proposal am I able to decline the proposal?

Yes, you are able to decline any date proposal. Skip does not force you to go on any dates.

How do I pass / reject a profile?

To pass / reject a profile you tap on the "X". Video Demo

Am I able to rewind on a profile I accidentally passed on?

You are able to rewind on a profile you accidentally passed on by quickly tapping the rewind arrow after making the mistake. If you wait too long or close the app you won’t be able to rewind. The good news is you may see that profile again at some point if they become relevant again in your ranking. So don't worry if you accidentally passed on some profiles recently. Video Demo

How do I like a profile?

To like a profile you hit the Skip heart logo. Either person is able to make the first like. Video Demo

Is there a way to unlike a profile?

No, there is no way to unlike a profile once you like them. The good news is even if you accidentally like a profile and get a date proposal you do not have to accept the date proposal.

How do I find people who like me?

Tap the star icon at the bottom to open the Likes page, see who liked you, and like them back to make a match. Video Demo

How much does Skip cost today?

Skip is free to use. The only potential costs are a background check, if required by the person you want to date, and optionally ordering a set of physical Date Cards if you would like to find a date in person.

Where is Skip available today?

Currently we are available in the US!

I am having issues with seeing everything on the skip pages?

Please try to turn off the large font within your settings. (the team is working on getting a fix for large font sizes) Please try using a mobile device vs a tablet.

My screen says “Skip is still growing in your area” and has a loading bar with a percentage. What does this mean?

This means we are still working on getting enough users in your area. The percentage is how far along we are until we’ll have enough users to open up your area up for swiping. Spreading the word will help us make this happen sooner

How do I update my availability?

Tap into the preferences icon, then tap then tap availability. Video Demo

How do I modify my age range preferences?

Tap into the preferences icon, select the toggles where it says “Age preference” and adjust the range to your liking. Video Demo

How does Skip location settings work?

So there are two different locations used with Skip. You have your dating range swiping distance which is how far away are you wanting to swipe on people for example maybe that is 50 miles which is that slider in the setting pages that goes up to 100 miles if you wanted.Then we have a second location area to indicate where you would like your future match to pick a date location somewhere within that blue bubble area which you can move anywhere on the map. So for example, you could be swiping on people that are 50 miles away but you only want your match to propose a date within a 20 mile radius of your downtown area so you dont have to drive to far. FYI your actual location will not show up to your match.

How do I change my preferred date location for someone to suggest a date location within a specific area?

Tap profile, then tap preferences icon, then tap location and adjust the toggle distance and move the blue circle area to any area you would be interested in your future date proposing a date location within. Demo Video

Am I able to change my location and swipe on profiles in a different location than where I am physically?

No, today we use your physical phone location to determine which potential match profiles to display to you within your dating distance range settings. In the future we are looking at adding the ability for you to set a different location, where you could swipe on people while you are physically not there. This will be helpful for people who travel a lot but still want to swipe on profiles in another home location.

How do I hide my profile on skip?

Click on profile, then tap settings, then move the toggle to off on “Show me on Skip”

How many photos are required on skip?

4 photos or more are required.

Can you drag and drop your profile photos?

Yes, you can just go to edit profile and then hold on the photo you want to reorder and then drag and drop. Video Demo

Can you reorder my prompt questions?

Yes, you can just go to edit profile and then hold on the prompt you want to reorder and then drag and drop. Video Demo

How do I add, edit or delete profile prompt?

Click the profile tab, then tap edit profile. Scroll down to prompt sections. Video Demo

I made a mistake on my name or birthday. How do I change it?

Reach out to Skip support at info@skip.dating for help updating your age or name.

Does Skip publicly display my phone number from my account to my date?

No, you are in full control of deciding what and if any information is shared with your date after the date has occurred. Phone numbers are not publicly displayed.

How much do date cards cost?

Pricing for Skip Date Cards may vary. You can find the most up-to-date pricing and purchase them directly in the Skip app!

How do I report a bug or provide feedback?

Please email us details at info@skip.dating Please provide your Device type, OS version, and phone # used to create your account so we can provide these details to our development team to fixed the problem.

Are you guys going to be having the option for a video date instead of a physical in-person date?

Yes, we are planning on releasing a video date option for users who want their first date to be a video call.

How do you stop people from lying on the deal breakers?

Yes, unfortunately, people do lie. The good news is that with Skip, you have not spent a week chatting only to go on a date and then find out they lied, people can also lie through chat. However, people do not always know the “right” answers to your deal breakers, if they are trying to lie. In the future, we plan to introduce advanced filtering options to help validate that deal breaker responses are true.

What's on the long-term roadmap? What other features are in the works?

Our focus is to continue building out our safety features and screening capabilities to help ensure our users have the best possible dates.

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